Anxiety & Relationships
It’s important to know that the anxiety that exhausts you is actually your system’s best attempt to protect you. But often it also ends up keeping you stuck or getting in the way of things you actually want in life.
You may struggle with self-doubt, a harsh inner critic, over-thinking, or trying to anticipate and control outcomes and relationships. It does not have to be this way forever, even if you have been anxious since childhood.
The more our systems are organized around trying to avoid pain and discomfort, the more we cut ourselves off from true connection, closeness, and the possibility of joy. Our goal is to help you reclaim your energy and cultivate a sense of internal safety and security that allows you to show up more openly in life and in your relationships.
Our work may include:
Practicing relating to your anxious and protective parts with acceptance, curiosity and compassion
Using Internal Family Systems (IFS) to find and heal the underlying pain that drives anxiety, perfectionism, overthinking and self-doubt
Identifying behavioral and relationship patterns that keep you stuck in over-functioning, people pleasing, or trying to control outcomes
Developing new ways of navigating emotions and relationships so you can respond with greater intention
Learning to stay connected in relationships without losing yourself in worry, overthinking, or caretaking
Building practical tools to manage stress and overwhelm, support executive functioning, and help daily life feel more manageable
Trusting Yourself
Real resilience doesn’t come from constant mental preparation or from trying to control people and situations. It comes from trusting your inner resources so you can stop suffering in anticipation and exist in the world with greater ease and an open heart.
How to Get Started
Fill out the contact form and I will reach out within 24 to 48 business hours to schedule a 15-minute free phone consultation. Phone consultations can be done with you directly, with a parent inquiring about therapy for their young adult, or with one partner looking into couples therapy.